I’ve adapted these great tips from Sheila Weinstein, who originally wrote them to get through the holidays. Don’t you think they’re great for any tough period? And remember, spring is just around the corner.

1. Let someone know you are alone and would like some company. Often we have no family nearby; friends are occupied and forget that we don’t have anyone to be with so it can be a very tough time. More often than not they are happy to include us in their plans, but they cannot read our minds, so we have to let them know.
2. Find others who are alone and invite them to share your own table. There are many other people out there who share our feelings.  Together we can have a lovely, enriching time.
3. Nurture yourself. Sometimes we prefer to be alone rather than in the company of others…too much noise…too much talk. Treat yourself as beautifully as you would a guest. Buy yourself flowers. Cook yourself a lovely dinner. This is the time to concentrate on you and give yourself the love and attention you would give to someone else. You are the most important person in your life.
4. Rent your favorite funny movie — one sure to make you laugh. A hearty laugh is as therapeutic as a good cry.
5. Volunteer to serve a meal at a shelter or soup kitchen where your help is appreciated and you can reach out and touch others with your good will.
6. Create a ritual that has meaning for yourself. For instance, write a note or a prayer to your loved one, or one for yourself and your new life. Put it in a balloon and let it fly.
7. •    Be grateful. Keep a positive attitude for all that you DO have. Write down what you are grateful for and keep it where you can see it.
8. Get out in nature. Take a long walk or drive to a spot that gives you comfort and peace. It helps us realize there is something much bigger than our own pain.
9. Give yourself permission to be happy. Allowing ourselves to enjoy the life we have paves the way for a fulfilling future.

Which will you do? What would you add?

Be sure to check out Sheila’s book Moving to the Center of the Bed,the Artful Creation of a Life Alone on her website: www.centerofthebed.com or on Amazon.com.

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