Archive for the ‘Fathers’ Category

Hike 4 Hope. Will you please support a great event?

Monday, February 8th, 2010

This week’s blog is about a great event, Hike 4 Hope (that unfortunately I cannot attend this year). My friend Leslie wrote this earlier this week, and I think it says it all. Please give what you can to our team.

“My business partner, Eileen Stern, is an amazing can do woman.  Having lost 6 family members in a year (including her Mother) to cancer, she turned her tragedy into triumph by creating Hike 4 Hope, a fundraiser to fund women’s cancer research at City of Hope.   Twelve years later her grass roots idea has blossomed into an annual event & this year will host over 1000 participants hiking in the majestic Indian Canyons of Palm Springs.

When it comes to fund-raising for City of Hope, I have no shame.  My commitment to COH is a personal one.  Given three months to live, I’m alive today because of COH’s collaboration, care & research/development of the drug Rituxan.  COH research has also led to the development of other leading anti-cancer drugs; Herceptin, Avastin and Erbitux, as well as synthetic human insulin –all of which are saving millions of lives worldwide.  Additionally COH has pioneered the use of TOMO Therapy (pin point radiation) & the DaVinci surgical system (prostate cancer).

We are aware of an injured economy.  Unfortunately active cancer cells could care less.  Far too many of us know someone whose life has been impacted by this disease.  This year we’ve formed a team to hike in honor of our dear friend, Marcelle Freides, who is again battling breast cancer after a 5 year remission.  The great news is she is being co-treated at both St. John’s Hospital in Santa Monica & City of Hope.

This Valentines Day marks 4 years since my initial cancer diagnoses and a day of sharing gifts from the heart.  Please open your heart and support me by joining Marcelle’s Mighty Marchers through the link.  Your gift of hope will help benefit all the mothers, daughters, friends, and loved ones who deal with the shock of a cancer diagnosis every minute.”

And please don’t forget to check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival.

How to Marry an Internet Serial Killer: Throw a Surprise Wedding

Friday, November 20th, 2009

I was never one of those women who pictured herself in a big white gown, walking down the aisle. For me it was more about getting married in Las Vegas by an Elvis impersonator on the Strip and having a great party in New York afterward.

When Frank and I decided to get married, my only stipulation was that my mother didn’t know about it. If that sounds harsh, understand the women on my mother’s side of the family tend to be a little obsessive. To compound that, my mother and my aunt are twins, my aunt lives in Manhattan, and used to be one of the famous fact checkers at the New Yorker. If the twins knew about the wedding, it would be endless obsession over food, drink, napkins, guests… everything.

It's All About Aging WeddingAs we usually host Thanksgiving, the plan was to get married the next afternoon. A justice of the peace was found who would come to our country house and perform the ceremony. We told everyone he was an architect coming to look at the house, and he was great about playing along.

On Friday afternoon, a few friends and family were up at our house eating turkey sandwiches, hanging out in their slippers. My best friend/maid of honor, and I were frantically trying to put the Martha Stewart touch to a bunch of lily of the valley. When the justice of the peace showed up, I came down the stairs in an off white cashmere turtleneck and velvet skirt and said “I know you thought we were going to announce our engagement tonight, and we still might, but right now we’re getting married”. Supposedly the look on my father’s face was amazing, and I’m sorry I missed it.

After the brief ceremony, we had champagne and cake, and went off to a celebratory dinner at the Beekman Tavern in Rhinebeck. My mother was thrilled, and as it turned out, grateful that she didn’t have to do anything but enjoy herself.

Three weeks later, we had the big party at our apartment in Manhattan, surrounded by friends and family. The highlight of the party was an amazing wedding cake made by two of my friends out of two hundred Tastykakes (Frank is from Philly). It's All About Aging Tastykakes

And for the past eleven years, we’ve lived happily ever after, always celebrating our anniversary on the Friday after Thanksgiving. Love you sporto!

Don’t forget to check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Drunk Driving a La-Z-Boy? Excuse Me, a “Lounger”

Monday, October 26th, 2009

If you thought you had issues with your parents and driving, just imagine getting this call…

Does this look like your fathers La-Z-Boy?

Does this look like your father's lounger?

A 61 year old man in Minnesota pleaded guilty Monday to DWI. Dennis LeRoy Anderson was sentenced to two years probation. He was busted last summer when he drove his motorized recliner into a parked car at the local watering hole. Yes, really.

According to the Star Tribune: Deputy Police Chief Troy Foucault said Thursday that the chair is “quite decked out.” Along with the stereo and cup holders, it is driven by a converted gasoline-powered lawnmower, and has a steering wheel, headlights and a power antenna. Foucault estimated that the La-Z-Boy can top out at 15 to 20 miles per hour. A National Hot Rod Association sticker adorns the headrest. The chair was impounded and will be sold at the next police auction, or according to the BBC, on e-Bay.

Wreckreaction Nation anyone?

Mom vs. Dad vs. iPod. How parents deal with technology

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

its-all-about-aging-joan-warren-50thOver dinner a few weeks ago, my father had an interesting idea. “I’m going to buy your mother an iPod.” My mother looked as though he had totally fallen off the deep end, and said “absolutely not! I won’t hear of it.” This was essentially the same reaction she had to the idea of a DSL or cable modem, which after a two year fight, had changed her life for the better.

His reasoning was sound (pun intended), they had two houses with piles of CD’s in each, and separate stereo set-ups. What if they just downloaded all the music onto the iPod, got rid of all the CD’s, and just carried the iPod from house to house? They could dock it, and use it in the car when they travel. Seems like a plan, right? Wrong. Totally fell on deaf ears. Then we chimed in telling my mother she could download all her favorite June Christy records. Nope.

The thing is, once my mother had the Ipod with all the music on it, she’d be in heaven. She could use it when she walks in the morning, or when she’s weeding her garden. For years she has always slept with a tiny radio and earphone, now she could download radio shows or have her favorite operas lull her to sleep. And if she found out she could watch all the episodes of Fawlty Towers

So, we’re thinking of smuggling out all the CD’s, loading them up on an iPod,  giving it to him for his birthday and let him break it to my mom.  Would this be the end of a 56 year marriage? Or like the DSL, the beginning of a whole new adventure? How do your parents feel about technology? And what would you put on their playlist?

How to score, a Father’s Day gift idea we can all use.

Monday, June 15th, 2009

Golfer What do Dads really want for Father’s Day?  How about great socks and shoes?

Socks and shoes? You’re thinking that’s as bad as a tie, aren’t you? What if I told you it would help him score on the golf course? Think about it,  Dad is spending the better part of 4 hours on his feet, and if he walks the course, it’s no surprise when he comes home and complains of sore, tired feet.  Keeping his feet healthy and happy may improve his performance, help him outlast the others and keep him energized.  Correct footwear and arch support can help to improve his game and confidence by providing the right foundation for improved balance and core stability.  When your foot isn’t properly supported, there’s a breakdown in the kinetic chain of force, which causes poor contact with the golf ball. In athletics, there is a greater importance on balance, support, performance and endurance of your feet. You can improve your game by combining the right shoe insert, socks and properly fitted shoes for every sport from golf to skiing to running.

Not to mentions, what’s one of the most common golf injuries? Back Pain.  A golf swing can put great stress on your back; causing major discomfort during the game (isn’t that what we like to blame our score on?).  In fact, studies show that 80% of adults in America will experience low back pain at some point in their lives.   Is back pain related to my feet? In many cases, yes.  Your feet are the foundation for every step you take. They play a key role in absorbing the shock that you place on your body every day.  Is your back pain worse in different shoes? If so, this may be an indication that your feet are contributing to your back pain.

So now when you give dad a day of hassle-free (by that, we mean nag-free) golf, he can enjoy it without sore feet, or a backache, and who knows, he may take his foursome for the big bucks this weekend.

My thanks to Katie Ingram of Foot Solutions for help with this. Check out their site for all the game-improving socks, shoes and insoles.