Archive for the ‘aging’ Category

Do You Google Yourself? Look What I Found.

Monday, September 6th, 2010

Do you Google yourself? What about Google Alerts? Since I tend to forget to regularly Google myself, I set up alerts for my business, and myself. This morning there were several alerts for “Anne Maxfield”…all obituaries. Nothing like getting up in the morning, waiting for that first mug of tea, and finding out that someone sharing my name, had just passed away. Curiosity (morbid, and the regular kind), made me check it out.
In the old days, like last year, when someone died, the family wrote a small obit, and paid for the local paper to run it. If you were famous, the paper would write a larger one. I’m sure you know many people who still turn to the obits first, some to see if anyone they know there, others to see if there might be an apartment available…
Now, obits like everything else, are posted on the Internet. You can virtually sign the guest book, and even add photos and videos (think about those Facebook and YouTube postings going strong for eternity). Not to mention, if you’re still looking for an apartment, you can subscribe to get obits e-mailed to you daily. The site even gives you starter text for the guest book, links to florists, and ideas for writing condolence cards. And of course, a Facebook link.
But, let me pay my respects to another Anne Maxfield. From her obituary: Anne was an active community volunteer in her later adult life. For over eight years, she was a volunteer for Carroll County Against Domestic Violence and Rape, where she received training and received an award for her outstanding service. In 1995, the Wakefield Police Department recognized Anne for her outstanding dedication to voluntary service with a certificate of appreciation. Anne was truly an “Angel.” She continued her close relationship with the Wakefield Police Department, deepest thanks to all they did for her.

If You Thought Losing Your Eyesight Was Bad, How About Declining Taste-buds?

Sunday, August 29th, 2010

Most Baby Boomers now need glasses to read almost anything. My big thrill with my e-reader was that I could pump up the type to a place where I didn’t need my glasses. Downside? Only a paragraph per page. Along with diminished eyesight, receding hairlines, and other body parts that always worked better, now we have to worry about declining taste buds. We have about 10,000 taste buds as adults, we lose some, and the ones that remain grow less sensitive (unless your my aunt reacting to spicy food). And more bad news, your sense of smell also diminishes, for some people with sinus issues, as early as age 50.

So what? According to this article in the Miami Herald “ When food becomes less appealing, seniors tend to eat smaller meals or skip them altogether. They begin to lose weight, which can lead to frailty.

“Since it doesn’t happen overnight, it’s not always noticeable at first,” says Dr. Kent Holtorf, who specializes in age-management medicine at The Holtorf Medical Center in San Francisco. “Usually, if they talk about it when they come in, they’ll mention it as a secondary symptom.”

Among the factors that exacerbate the loss of taste perception are smoking, neurological diseases such as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s and medications including antibiotics, chemotherapy drugs and some arthritis remedies. Dietary restrictions to deal with hypertension and diabetes further complicate meal prep.”

What to do?

  • Add flavor. Using any kinds of herbs and spices will always help even if it’s as simple as a few grinds of pepper. Many spices, like turmeric, ginger, and cinnamon have other holistic healing benefits in addition to adding flavor.
  • Lemon or lime juice adds a nice acidic touch, as will flavored vinegars, like balsamic. When you watch chefs at work, they’re always adding something acidic. Try it. I make almost all my salad dressing with lemon juice instead of (or along with) vinegar.
  • I personally don’t have issues with salt, but if you do, try a salt substitute like Mrs Dash, or Jane’s Krazy Mixed Up Salt (which does have salt mixed with other seasonings).
  • When my aunt isn’t around, a dash of hot sauce or sriracha (if you don’t know about this, check it out, Asian section of the grocery), goes a long way.
  • If I’m wearing my locavore hat, fresh, local and seasonal always tastes better that out of season and flavorless.
  • Don’t forget that setting a nice table, and plating the food well always helps.

What other ideas do you have to make meals more appetizing?

Check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival. Great cat photo for you feline lovers out there.

Shingles Vaccine Follow-up. Have You Gotten It?

Friday, August 20th, 2010

When I first posted the blog about the shingles vaccine, I have to admit I felt dumb that I hadn’t known about it. In the time since then, I realised that I’m not the only one who didn’t know about it, and only 10% of the eligible population (considered to be people over 60) has actually gotten the shot. Why? According to a really interesting article in the NY Times it’s expensive, and not necessarily covered by insurance. My own vaccine was $250, money that I think was well spent, and I don’t know whether the insurance covered any of it.  My personal experience with health insurance is that almost nothing is covered, and when it is, it’s an unexpected surprise. But that’s a whole other blog.  The people I know who have had shingles all say it was the most painful experience of their lives, and I’m sure would have all coughed up $250 or more to prevent it.

The other issue becomes more of a catch-22; because the vaccine is expensive, and people aren’t getting it, doctors aren’t stocking it, and they’re not recommending it because people don’t want to pay for it, etc… The average cost of treatment for shingles was $525  five years ago, and it takes about 5 weeks to recover from the virus. So wouldn’t you think insurance companies would rather pay the cost of the vaccine, rather than the cost of the treatment? Have you gotten the vaccine? Why or why not?

Don’t forget to check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival.

Is Being Alone a Thing of the Past?

Friday, August 6th, 2010

Do you worry about being alone when you get older? Pretty common worry, right? But maybe Baby Boomers don’t have so much to worry about. A month ago, I was at a lecture that Gary Vaynerchuk was giving. If you don’t know who he is, he’s turned his family’s liquor store into a multi-million dollar business, using social media. He’s also a crazy, young, guy, with unlimited energy, and he makes a great speaker. One of his many great ideas was that he’s not worried about getting older alone, because he’s so connected with social media. Interesting idea, right?

Aren’t your parents connected in some way with other people, on the Internet? Whether it’s just e-mail, or they exchange photos online, or keep a Facebook page, our parents are out there to some degree. The iPad has become a huge hit with seniors worldwide, and the oldest Twitter user just died at 104.  And Boomers are online and using social media even more. Whether you’re addicted to Facebook, or just don’t get it, you’re probably online a lot more than your parents. You may not consider them all your BFF’s but think about how many people you connect with through LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook, even YouTube.  And who knows what the Twitter of the next ten or twenty years will be?

So for us, maybe the issue will be how we find time to be alone, in a connected world. What do you think?

For other connected Boomers, please check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival. Interesting posts on social media, and living longer, check it out!

Stubborn. How Many Baby Boomers Are Dealing With This?

Friday, July 30th, 2010

A good friend of mine, like a lot of other Boomers, has a lot on her plate. She’s caregiving for her husband and her mother, working, and a long-distance grandma to four grand-kids. Her mom is living alone, not far from my friend, increasingly fragile and needy. She thought she had things worked out; her mother would go to live with her sister in California. That is until it came time for her mother to go to California. Stubborn, and set in her ways, not to mention the home she’s lived in for years, she put her foot down and refused to budge.

It made me wonder, how you start to broach this conversation, and what the signs are that your loved ones shouldn’t be on their own any more. The fact that you can’t cope is certainly a strong signal, but there should be earlier warning signs, and there are.

According to my friends at SeniorHomes.com, there are five signs a loved one might need assisted care:

  1. Does your family member’s skin feel soft and have a normal color?
  2. Can your family member see clearly?
  3. Can your family member hear you?
  4. Is there food in the refrigerator?
  5. Are medications current and being taken regularly?

I know what you’re thinking…I can answer these questions but this is not giving me the tools I need to have this conversation. So here goes…AARP has a really good post on starting a conversation. Click here for the link. Jacqui at SeniorHomes.com also gave me these two links for assessing your loved ones needs, and their site has the full answers to the five questions.

“Talking To Your Loved Ones About Their Care” from the American Health Care Association
http://www.longtermcareliving.com/prep/conversation/

“Assessing The Need” from Comfort Keepers. This is a really good assessment guide.
http://www.comfortkeepers.com/sites/default/files/document/assessmentguide.pdf

Thanks to Jacqui and Chris at SeniorHomes.com for their help with this! And be sure to check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival. There’s a great post from our hostess. Check it out and comment if you don’t think Boomers are “a bunch of big fat heavy drug users who never exercise and are bad with money”. Doesn’t sound like anyone I know, what about you?

Hurricane Season and Your Records. Huh?

Thursday, July 15th, 2010

It’s hurricane season, and depending on where you live, it’s a cause for preparation, or just another couple of months on the calendar. Well, no matter where you live, hurricane season is a great reason to safeguard all your important papers (and if you have a business, do it for the business too). My friend, CPA, Linda Hamilton offers the following tips:

Create a Backup Set of Records Electronically. Taxpayers should keep a set of backup records in a safe place. The backup should be stored away from the original set.

  • Keeping a backup set of records – including, for example, bank statements, tax returns, insurance policies, etc. – is easier now that many financial institutions provide statements and documents electronically, and much financial information is available on the Internet.
  • You might also want to add copies of your passport, drivers licence, even credit cards.
  • Even if the original records are provided only on paper, they can be scanned, which converts them to a digital format.
  • Once documents are in electronic form, taxpayers can download them to a backup storage device, like an external hard drive, thumb drive, or burn them onto a CD or DVD.
  • Taxpayers should consider online backup, which is the only way to ensure data is fully protected. With online backup, files are stored in another region of the country – so if a hurricane or other natural disaster occurs, documents remain safe (I use Carbonite).
  • Document Valuables. Another step a taxpayer can take to prepare for disaster is to photograph or videotape the contents of his or her home, especially items of higher value. A photographic record can help prove the market value of items for insurance and casualty loss claims. Photos and videos should be stored with a friend or family member who lives outside the area, or can also be stored online. Putting the videos on YouTube, is probably not a great idea…
  • Update Emergency Plans. Emergency plans should be reviewed annually. Personal and business situations change over time, as do preparedness needs.
  • Don’t put it off. The next rainy day, is a good day to do it.

And don’t forget this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival. Where else can you get info on everything from PSA tests to why you should be on LinkedIn?

Your Brain, Use it or Lose it?

Friday, July 9th, 2010

It’s probably the most important body part you have, but when was the last time you worked out your brain? And, no, trying to remember where the Weather Channel moved on your cable system, doesn’t count. If you’re like most of us Boomers, the thought of  losing your mind, could cause you to, well, lose it. We’re obsessed with crossword puzzles, Sudoku, and Scrabble, but I would guess that very few of us actually make time to work out our brains. Even if you believe that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, exercising your noggin can’t hurt. The most important thing is to get started, and keep at it. Sounds like exercising anything, doesn’t it? There are a lot of companies working in this space, as Baby Boomers age, the market is growing with them. I met some of the people behind Posit Science at a Boomer conference, and recently have been in touch with one of their Internet marketing analysts, Eric. He’s sent me a couple of the games to try out…pretty interesting, and a little scary. Check them out here: 

How did you do? I’ll share if you do.

If you want another way to work out your brain, check out this week’s Blogging Boomer’s Carnival!

Family History. Is This a Harder Conversation Than the Money One?

Friday, June 25th, 2010

Why is it that most families are reluctant to discuss family health histories? A good friend of mine died last year from prostate cancer. He got it at a pretty early age, and at a pretty advanced stage. When he was finally diagnosed, it turns out that there was a long family history of the men in his family having and dying from prostate cancer, going back at least three generations. But nobody talked about it, and so my friend was never warned in time to start getting himself tested at an even earlier age.

  • Side note: there was a fascinating study recently about using dogs to detect prostate cancer. Turns out there’s something in the urine, that trained dogs can smell. So if a dog keeps sniffing around an embarrassing area, maybe it’s time for a check-up.

In my own family, I bet there’s a history of depression, that no one has ever talked about. I’ve suffered from it, and think my father suffers from it. But we’re WASP’s so we don’t talk about it (until now). I know that my father’s mother had arthritis, and it looks like my mother has it in her hands. My doctor told me years ago that I had signs of early arthritis in my hands, but once again, no one talks about it.

Recently, my husband was told he has a “tiny bit of diabetes” and he should watch his weight and diet. You’ve probably already figured out what comes next. Yes, he has a family history of diabetes, and he knows it, but the extent of his knowledge, unknown.

So, how do we start this conversation?

Don’t forget to check out this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival, it’s the last one before the 4th of July!

Shingles; Tips for Avoiding the Kind You Don’t Want

Thursday, June 3rd, 2010

Whether you like it or not, mom is (almost) always right.

  • Play hard to get, check.
  • You’re going to wear that? Umm… maybe check.
  • You know I never liked _________. Check.

The last time my parents came to dinner, my mother asked about an old friend of mine. “She’s doing fine, but she just came down with shingles.”
“She didn’t have the vaccine?”
What vaccine?”
“The shingles vaccine. I want you to call your doctor on Monday and go get the shot!”
Check!

If you’re a Baby Boomer like me, and most of my friends, you probably know at least one person who has had the shingles. From what I understand, it’s incredibly painful,and something you really don’t want to get. If you had chicken pox as a kid, you’re susceptible, and interestingly, the spring is the season for both the chicken pox, and shingles. Well, now you can prevent it with a shingles vaccine. It may not be covered by your insurance (why would it be, it’s preventing something), my shot cost $250 (I love NY), but knowing that’s it’s one thing I can really cross off the list, to quote MasterCard, “priceless”
And don’t believe everything you read.The common wisdom is that you can’t have the shot if you’re under 60. Not true. So do yourself a favor, and get vaccinated. Now my doctor says I’m good for another 40-50 years. According to a recent article on tampabay.com there are a whole host of vaccines that we Boomers probably think we’ve had or don’t need, but you’d be wrong. Here’s a link to a quick and easy quiz, to figure out what you vaccines you might need. And please, don’t feel bad if you didn’t know about this, most of my friends didn’t either, so mom wins another round. Check!

Big thanks to Life too for hosting this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival! You’ll like the blog about treating your spouse like a dog.

Baby Boomers Take Note: A Wonderful Use For Your Flip Video

Sunday, May 30th, 2010

Most Baby Boomers have a video recorder. It may be an older video camera you bought for taking videos of the kids growing up, or a cool new Flip Video, but you know you’ve got one. After reading this you’re going to want to dust if off and recharge the batteries.

For her mom’s 75th birthday, Ann Mehl had her filmmaker friend Mark McDevitt film her mother as she went around doing her daily tasks. Ho hum you’re thinking, right? Before you dismiss it as just another family video, check it out here on the NY Times site. Ann’s mother has dementia, and Ann has written several time for this blog, about her experiences caring for an elderly parent. Mark has captured her caregiving, and kindness as well as the wonderful spirit of Ann’s mother. Here are some ideas for video records for your own family and you don’t have to have a professional do them:

  • Practical: Shoot videos of each room in the house, focusing on valuables. Copy this video to a thumbdrive and move it to a secure place off-site in case of fire or theft. This way you’ll have a record for the insurance company.
  • Delicious: Is there a family recipe or cooking technique you’d like to know about? Sometimes a pinch of this, or the right texture for meatballs or pie crust is better filmed than on a aging recipe card.
  • Enthralling: What better way to have the family stories preserved, than by your family’s best story teller?
  • Timeless: Do you really look at your photos on the computer? Wouldn’t you rather see your family as they were at that moment in time? The NY Times piece said “If we want to remember the people they were at 75 or 85 or 93, why don’t we document their voices and smiles and stories using today’s simple, affordable technology?”
  • Creative: The Times article also pointed out that the younger members of the family may be the most adept with the technology, so why not let them have a shot at filmmaking?

What other uses for a video camera can you think of for your family memories? Leave a comment. As a side note, because I was so touched by the 75th birthday video, I’ve been working with Mark on another project, and it’s been a great experience.